Mr. & Mrs.
“Cry me a river. Cry me, cry me…”
Unlike many of the other areas of my life ( Design, Fashion, Art, Food), my taste in music leaves much to be desired, or more accurately - is non existent. If it’s playing on the radio - I’ll listen.
Now you are probably wondering what on earth this has to do with our recent wedding(not recent at all…. we were just really slow in getting around to posting this article). Well, it has everything and nothing to do with it.
It has everything to do with the uncontrollable tears that unexpectedly sprung out of nowhere when I first saw Yun coming down the aisle and (embarassingly) continued to flood out of me for the majority of the ceremony - hence, “Cry me a river…”.
It has nothing to do with the unexpectedly terrible wedding band, that were so bad they were in fact great! And everything to do with it, as they turned out to be a personal highlight of the ceremony. Would we have remembered a totally average performance - probably not. An assault on the earbuds, however - memorable! Now, it’s only my personal opinion and I’m not going to name and shame the band as they gave it their best effort and I appreciate that! I also possess one of the worst singing voices on the planet, so who am I to judge?
So back to the crying and the ceremony and the baby… Did we get married because we are expecting a baby? - yes. Would we have gotten married if we weren’t? - probably not right now…Were we planning to have a baby? - probably not right now… Was Yun planning to throw the wedding bouquet to her sister - probably not (I think…). "Probably not right now" is how I would respond to a lot of things, and in the process of finding out we were having a baby, planning for a wedding and planning for a baby - we found out that "not right now" was kind of a dumb answer. Now I’m not telling people to start having babies and spur of the moment weddings, but at the same time - it’s the greatest thing that’s ever happened to us!
Our wedding was so last minute and unplanned (Unplanned = broke) that we went for the cheapest EVERYTHING!!! Yun made her own bouquet on the morning of the ceremony, and my decision to opt for sneakers was as much about me liking sneakers as about not wanting to go into debt for a pair of Dolce & Gabbana loafers! And at the end of the day, it surprisingly couldn’t have gone better. The one thing that did go wrong - the band, went bad in the best of ways! And I only mention them again, as I am starting to well up with tears of laughter thinking back to their performance.
In the spirit of all things unplanned, we didn’t prepare our vows before hand. In the end, I think we said what needed to be said. The wedding turned out to be great, the food, the dress, the everything! Would I do it again? Of course! Would Yun do it again? Maybe not, haha - (99% of the wedding was planned/orchestrated by her!!!).
And at the end of the day, I married the woman I love passionately - and have loved for the past 6 years. I added her amazing friends and family to my own and we are expecting a little tiny human being sometime very soon… And the conclusion is, firstly - I love bad pop music and secondly - I don’t think I can answer "not right now" to anything else in life, because it’s been holding me back from some pretty incredible experiences.
P.S. If you were expecting a blow-by-blow account of the wedding day, I am sorry to disappoint you. I have a terrible memory, to be honest - but more importantly, I didn’t see half of what was happening as I couldn’t stop crying!
P.P.S. A huge hug and many thanks to all of our incredible friends and family for attending at such short notice - and being incredible people! Another huge hug and incredible thanks to Julia- Yun’s BFF for officiating so officially, and wonderfully. And lastly, to Ricor ( And True True, of course) for his amazingly incredibly beautiful photos!